tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post3343429976106048726..comments2024-03-26T04:53:26.869-05:00Comments on CiCis Corner: Care GivingLea @ CiCis Cornerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09252011706208068724noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-21599207398811193532019-01-18T11:47:21.569-06:002019-01-18T11:47:21.569-06:00YOU are a true blessing. YOU are a true blessing. Carrie Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01819737721881821638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-48474369064977884552019-01-17T15:02:41.511-06:002019-01-17T15:02:41.511-06:00This was really so lovely and honest. Everyone nee...This was really so lovely and honest. Everyone needs an advocate when it comes to healthcare now and your loved ones have been so fortunate to have you dedicated to their well being. Joycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16727615822243830106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-85888953843047754592019-01-16T18:10:08.478-06:002019-01-16T18:10:08.478-06:00Lea, this was so eloquently written and with such ...Lea, this was so eloquently written and with such heart. You are definitely a blessing to those you care for and it sounds like you've had more than your fair share. I believe you are 100% right that people in those circumstances absolutely need an advocate for them. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. XOLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06836213785911009814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-67078686720706848012019-01-16T13:41:29.176-06:002019-01-16T13:41:29.176-06:00God has certainly gifted you with such a tender he...God has certainly gifted you with such a tender heart of service for others and you have obeyed so beautifully and faithfully. I am thankful to know you!Simple Purposeful Livinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11757478306076524933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-6137411962589212462019-01-16T06:14:46.204-06:002019-01-16T06:14:46.204-06:00This was a tough post to read. I was a care overse...This was a tough post to read. I was a care overseer for several years, but certainly not nearly as long as you. It is difficult in so many ways, especially seeing ones you love who have always been strong, becoming more helpless mentally and physically. The relatives not living nearby have no idea. And it is crucial that anyone in a care facility have a good and caring advocate. I wish more people realized that. God bless you Lea.Cranberry Morninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10758563068581561194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-80670119442504180472019-01-15T10:44:20.359-06:002019-01-15T10:44:20.359-06:00You are an angel!
We all could learn a thing or tw...You are an angel!<br />We all could learn a thing or two from your dedication! Those you assisted we blessed to have you there. Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09690722786561637489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-34689620898703195962019-01-15T06:54:36.345-06:002019-01-15T06:54:36.345-06:00I loved the comment made by Creations By Cindy, &q...I loved the comment made by Creations By Cindy, "So many are afraid to say their true feelings as it makes them feel guilty." Hands up. That's me. <br /><br />I've had a lot of loss in my life, Grandpa '99, Granddad '09, Nana '09, Granny '10. But the biggest loss was my Dad in '13. <br /><br />He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 8 weeks after my Granny passed. I was 24, a recent college graduate, his only family member in the U.S, and overseer of his care. I took him to his weekly oncology, chemotherapy, radiology, and hospital appointments. Made sure his prescriptions were filled, helped him get in and out of his wheelchair, and ran errands. I was utterly drained for most of my twenties. <br /><br />I didn't mind overseeing my Dad's care, but what really hurt was my mother-in-law and aunt telling me that I wasn't doing good enough. That 4 days a week, 6 hours a day, most days wasn't enough. That I should've seen him everyday. I had to hold in a lot of feelings. <br /><br />He passed after 2 1/2 years, a week before my birthday. I spent my 27th birthday in a funeral home signing cremation papers so that his ashes could be sent to Germany, to rest near my Granny. I then spent another 1-2 years working on his estate. I don't know what I would've done if I didn't have faith. <br /><br />How you've done it for 30 years is beyond me. Hopefully your family and friends share their appreciation and lend you extra hands when asked. <br /> Kiki Nakitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12309091947067698247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-60283554451321519572019-01-14T19:52:30.277-06:002019-01-14T19:52:30.277-06:00You really are an angel and have certainly had mor...You really are an angel and have certainly had more than your fair share of care taking. I think you are so right that a person in a nursing home will only get good care with an strong advocate. My mother was in assisted living for several years while I was living overseas, and I will always be grateful to my brother for handling her day-to-day needs while I was gone. She had liver disease and passed away 4 years ago this month. She went quickly at the end, and we didn't have to face many tough decisions on her care. Thank you for posting this and giving us insight into elder care. Tanya https://www.blogger.com/profile/15451171508299813896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-22670625325700502022019-01-14T17:48:03.407-06:002019-01-14T17:48:03.407-06:00Thank you for sharing your story with us. It helps...Thank you for sharing your story with us. It helps to hear the experiences of others as we go through this particular chapter of life. It certainly is not easy and leaves us baffled much of the time. Some day we will understand what this was all about.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02389829595981028640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-85899820280724639972019-01-14T16:59:35.245-06:002019-01-14T16:59:35.245-06:00I cried as I read this. You are such a special wom...I cried as I read this. You are such a special woman! I don’t feel there’s ever enough information on what caregivers go through. I am an only child I know it will be me who will take care of my parents. I have promised my mother but I will take care of her if that time ever comes and we built our new home in such a manner that she could live in part of it. <br /> Your family has been blessed beyond measure to have you.I know it is not easy but I believe it is the Lord’s will and this part of your job here on this earth. Hugs to you my sweet friend! xoAndrea Ninehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11746436088260144774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-20410020040990881712019-01-14T15:24:40.268-06:002019-01-14T15:24:40.268-06:00But a precious, sincere and REAL post. I love your...But a precious, sincere and REAL post. I love your honesty. So many are afraid to say their true feelings as it makes them feel guilty. I have VERY OFTEN said....it is NOT the person being cared for that needs the prayers. It is the CAREGIVER! I know full well your heart here. I have lived and still am. I told my husband I felt I had been a caregiver my whole life. Thanks for sharing. Hugs and blessings, CindyCreations By Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06652249357420269173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-47463994454777872962019-01-14T10:56:35.179-06:002019-01-14T10:56:35.179-06:00I have "been there" but certainly not to...I have "been there" but certainly not to the extent that you have for 30 years and counting. I do know some of the feelings you are experiencing though. There are times, even with my hubby, that I wish I had someone to take care of me. Laughingly it has been said that every woman needs a wife. Some truth in that! Bless you for your caring and sacrifices. Your loved ones have been and are blessed to have you on their side. Hugs & love for you!Terri Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15333024343069943295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-41116832055140818782019-01-14T10:46:57.977-06:002019-01-14T10:46:57.977-06:00This post is beautiful! It has to be so draining e...This post is beautiful! It has to be so draining emotionally. You are an angel and I also cannot imagine a child NOT wanting to do these things for a parent. I do not want to imagine the time when I need to start thinking about the care or loss of one of my parents. For the time being, I will remain very grateful for them and their health! Hugs to you!Annsterwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01441074446170101547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-79366163394258852202019-01-14T09:34:44.270-06:002019-01-14T09:34:44.270-06:00How lucky they have been to have you looking after...How lucky they have been to have you looking after them. It's hard, I've had health problems the last year and my husband has had to deal with everything. I'm getting better, but I worry about my husband, what he goes through is so stressful. God bless you.<br />Mac n' Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05732924562630675589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-70995171577147172182019-01-14T08:44:38.177-06:002019-01-14T08:44:38.177-06:00I SO can relate. My Mama also had a stroke, lived ...I SO can relate. My Mama also had a stroke, lived 2 years and needed lots of care. My Dad had a lung disease and in his last years also needed lots of attention. I wish they were both still with us and although tiring, like you would do it again and again. Sending HUGS and PRAYERS your way this morning. Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07511604348057625922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-76140883520763404912019-01-14T08:00:45.453-06:002019-01-14T08:00:45.453-06:00I will always be so grateful for the years I had l...I will always be so grateful for the years I had living close to and then overseeing the nursing home care of my precious mother after dad's death. You have truly had your hands full for these many years and could write a book, but I appreciate your sweet attitude and example for many who are having to live this role as well. My sister is living the long 24/7 role of a caregiver for her husband and knows it will only get worse. Very sad. Have a good week, Lea.Elizabeth "Libby" Dayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17145264016754286426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-63659029177670321692019-01-14T08:00:25.805-06:002019-01-14T08:00:25.805-06:00Beautiful post, Lea. Care giving is not easy but ...Beautiful post, Lea. Care giving is not easy but can be rewarding. Enjoy your week.Preppy Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13446028963455322844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-70066592011298471062019-01-14T07:29:49.878-06:002019-01-14T07:29:49.878-06:00As I am sure you remember I spent the last two yea...As I am sure you remember I spent the last two years of her life caring for my dear mom, to include the last year living with us. It was extremely difficult and had MANY challenges included with it. I look back and remember grumbling soo much more than I wish I had. But I also remember the good times and cherish all those “last” memories as well. It scares me to think I might be her some day and living with one of my kids. But I trust God to worry about that for me. You my friend have been on this for a long long time. I know how much you love your daddy and how much you will miss him when he finally enters heaven. God sees it too. And I believe your reward will be great. Love to you!Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09836655708421528876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6770812058495583430.post-31420832909856896512019-01-14T06:56:54.017-06:002019-01-14T06:56:54.017-06:00The Lord has blessed you with this wonderful gift....The Lord has blessed you with this wonderful gift. I know these wonderful people were also blessed to have your support and love during a time when they needed it the most. Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297382150275089735noreply@blogger.com